Sensual Massage: Penis Massage
For the giver:
One of the amazing things to remember is that men often have a lot of performance pressure during sex and penis massage is about taking all that pressure away, just letting him feel his penis no matter what’s happening.
While you are offering him as much pleasure as possible, there is no subtle desire to make him have an erection or push him really close to ejaculation, just allow his body to experience whatever it is that he needs to experience.
It is also nice to regularly check in with him, how does he like it. Does he like the pressure? Does he like the speed? Really finding out what feels best to him- it’s incredibly, incredibly important.
Also make sure that you don’t push him over the edge. You don’t want to end the penis massage too quickly. If he ejaculates it’s going to be hard for him to get back into it, so make sure that you are playing with his pleasure levels but not pushing him way over too quickly.
For both the giver and receiver, this is really important: You are going to use a signaling system, with levels from 0 to 10. Zero is he is not feeling any pleasure at all and 10 is he is ejaculating. If he is experiencing lots of sexual pleasure and lots of turn-on, you want to bring him up to a level 8 or 9 but you don’t want to push him beyond it.
When you are giving this massage just really tune in to your touch, the way that you are touching your man, the way that his body is responding. Look for his breath, his face, the signals of his body and let this massage be organic.
Don’t take whether he has an erection or not personally, just allow his body to receive, take the pressure off of him and just let him feel.
For the receiver:
Stay tuned into your own levels, really monitor your own pleasure and turn-on and if you start getting to an 8 or 9 let your partner know so that she can stop stimulating you, give you little bit of rest before she starts touching you again. Communication is really really essential for having an amazing penis massage experience.
When you receiving the penis massage keep tuning in, really feel your pleasure, experience what’s going on inside of you. Try not to push yourself or feel like you have to perform in a certain way, that you have to have an erection.
Just let your penis do whatever it is that he needs to do and again, like I just mentioned, stay really tuned into your own pleasure level so that when you start getting to an 8 or 9 you can let your partner know to stop stimulating you, give you a break before she starts touching you again.
Reaching a level of 8-9 and stopping there and then continuing again is super super key and one of the really beautiful ways to build your stamina. It will help you last longer and also help you experience
full body orgasms. It’s going to make you a better lover if you start regularly practicing bringing your body up to an 8 or 9 and not ejaculating, and to keep bringing your body there over and over again. This is amazing sexual mastery training for you and that’s part of this massage.Don’t be surprised if emotions come up for you as well. You never know what’s going to come up in penis massage. It’s often a mind- blowing, exquisitely orgasmic experience but it doesn’t necessarily have to be.
This massage is all about just feeling, so continually bring your awareness and sensations in your body, what you are feeling in your testicles, what you are feeling in your penis, what you are feeling in your pelvis, what you are feeling in your chest.
There is no pressure to have an erection, to have an orgasm or to feel a certain way. You are just feeling and experiencing. Keep in mind during this massage you don’t want to ejaculate, so make sure to communicate to your partner at any time if they are touching you in a way that is exciting you too much.
After the massage is done, you have the option to check in with each other and decide if you want make love, if you feel like you want to bring him to ejaculation and orgasm through the massage or if you just want to end the massage.
Setup
The giver will set up the ritual space:
Put the blanket down on the bed.
Set up a pillow for his head.
Have the oil or the lube close by because you’re going to use plenty of
it during this massage.
Put a pillow down for yourself to support you where you’re sitting
between his legs. You want to find the position that’s most comfortable to you, and you can change throughout the massage if you really need to. The point is for you to be as comfortable as possible.
Once you’re seated between his legs you can sit with your legs crossed, or you can have them straight, or whatever feels most comfortable to you. If sitting like this is really uncomfortable for you or you have back issues, bring a chair up to the edge of the bed and go ahead and sit on that for the pussy massage.
The receiver will be either totally naked if it feels amazing, or if it’s cold for some reason or makes you more comfortable, you can just have your bottoms off. Choose what feels right and then lie down on the bed.
Once everything is setup you can begin the massage.
Step 1:
Start by looking at his penis, his testicles, his thighs, his whole pelvic area- really take him in. Now tell him three things that you love about his penis, his testicles, anything about this area. You can compliment the size or the shape of his penis, the color of his skin, anything you particularly love about his testicles.
Step 2:
Put one hand over his penis and the other end over the center of his chest, invite him to take three deep breaths and relax deeply on the exhale.
Step 3:
Put massage oil on your hands and warm it up in your palms.
You will begin with opening up his whole body, so stroke with the flat palm of your hand from his hips, up to the center of his chest, around his nipples and back down the side of his body. Do this stroke several times and reapply oil as you go to make sure the entire front side of his body is well-oiled. Practice a firm touch, as most men usually like quite a lot of pressure, but check in and ask him if he would like to harder or lighter.
Step 4:
Use the flat palms of both your hands and do an abdominal massage stroking clockwise around his navel with medium pressure into his belly.
Step 5:
Apply more oil to your hands. Now stroke from his inner thighs, around towards his hips and make circles around his outer thighs, coming back into his inner thighs. Make sure to draw your thumbs along his groin so there is a little contact between your thumbs and his testicles. You are not trying to stimulate his penis, you are just opening up this area of his body.
Step 6:
Now use your thumbs to stroke in deep circles from the groin, right beneath his testicles, up along his pubic bone. This is going to open and release any stress or tension he might be carrying in this area and add more blood to flow here. Press into the muscles, and press and release all along the groin so to open up this area.
Step 7:
Oil up his entire penis and testicles. Cup underneath his penis with one hand and draw the other hand from the root of his penis next to his anus, gently over the testicles, then back up from the lower shaft all the way to the head of the penis, spreading oil all the way around the penis and testicles. Keep doing the stroke firm, steady and slow from the root of his penis, over the testicles, all the way up toward the head of his penis.
Step 8:
Now hold his penis in one hand and use the other hand to draw your palm down from the head of the penis back down gently over the testicles, down to the root. Repeat this stroke slow, steady from the head of his penis all the way back down to the root.
Step 9:
Now go to the root of his penis beneath the testicles. If you are not sure where that is, there is a ligament that runs from the penis into his pelvic floor beneath his testicles and inserts above the anus. Feel this root with your thumbs.
Place both thumbs on either side of his root and stroke upward firmly and deeply with your thumbs, one thumb after the other.
You slowly increase the pace to stroke quite rapidly on this area.
Step 10:
Hold underneath his testicles with one hand and use the flat palm of your other hand, to give him a gentle testicle massage by rolling your hands in circles over his testicles.
Check in with him because every man is different when it comes to testicle massage, so ask if he likes the pressure, the speed and the touch. Always start with a softer, slower touch on the testicles and adjust to his desires.
This increases testosterone and can make the whole sexual experience more pleasurable.
Step 11:
Now grip right above his testicles so you are holding his ballsack between your forefinger and your thumb. Stroke downwards by alternating right and left hand, gently stretching in a downward movement in a gentle but firm way and pulling the scrotum away from his body.
Step 12:
Begin stroking with your palms, one hand after the other, from the top of his penis towards the base. Let the penis slide between your loose fingers, and alternate right hand and then left hand, over and over.
Remind him that there is no pressure to have an erection, and that he can just relax into whatever he is feeling. This is a therapeutic massage for his penis.
Step 13:
Now give him penis shiatsu to awaken the reflexology points of his penis. Rest his penis on the forefingers of one hand, and use your thumbs placed side-by- side to stroke from the base of his penis, deeply and firmly, all the way to the head of his penis. Stroke up and then down.
Check in with your partner, if he likes the pressure, the speed, the touch and meet his desires, and remind him that this is a deep opening of the penis.
Step 14:
Roll your thumbs to the left side of the penis, doing the same deep stroke with your thumbs up and down on the left side of his penis.
Then roll your thumbs on the right side with the same deep up and down stroke on the shaft.
Step 15:
Hold the head of the penis between your thumb and forefinger and alternate right and left hand stroking from the head of the penis, firmly but very slowly from the head back down the shaft.
Check in with him asking if he likes the pressure, if he likes the speed and if he likes the stroke, adjusting to his desires. You can also check in with your partner if he would like more or less oil. Some will like it really wet and some will like it more dry, you can always add more oil to meet his preference.
Step 16:
Place your hands around the penis so they are cupping his penis on the left and right sides. With your thumbs together you are going to stroke up and down on the head of his penis, paying attention that your thumbs stroke his frenulum, the most sensitive underside part of the penis.
Step 17:
Switch now to a downwards stroke. Grip his penis firmly in your hands, switch left hand and right hand, stroking downwards in a rhythmic motion.
Ask your partner if he likes the pressure and if he likes the speed.
Step 18:
Use your left hand to stroke down on the penis. As you stroke you are going to use your right hand and spin your three central fingers around the head of the penis, gripping the penis as if you were twisting a bottle cap off and popping your hand off the top of his penis.
This can be a very activating stroke, so make sure you don’t go over his edge. If he comes close to ejaculation be sure to stop. If you are receiving the massage, let your partner know to take a rest for a few moments if you need it.
Step 19:
Cradle the head and the shaft of his penis in one hand and use your other palm to slide slowly and lusciously down his penis, stroking it with a flat palm of your hand.
Step 20:
Firmly hold his penis with your left hand, and pull the foreskin down if your partner is uncircumcised and unerect. Then use your right hand with all five fingers and gently stroke up and down over the head of his penis.
Check in with your partner if he likes the pressure and if he likes the speed.
Step 21:
Get a firm grip on the penis with the forefingers of your left hand, holding the underside of his penis, and cross your thumb over the front of his shaft. Grip the forefingers of your right hand around your left hand, crossing your right thumb over the left thumb, making a cross on the front of his shaft.
Stroke up and down firmly with both hands.
Step 22:
Cup his testicles on the palm of one hand, and grip the shaft of his penis with the other and do a kind of loosey-goosey stroke. Your fingers are loose, so not a hard grip, and as you stroke you are twisting your wrist slightly so that your fingers come down in a different pattern every time.
For this stroke you can go as slow or as fast as you want, tuning into what brings your partner the most pleasure. Make sure not to push him over the edge, slow down if he is very excited or speed up if he could use more stimulation.
Step 23:
Now grip the penis in the palm of your hand, but continue cupping the testicles in your other hand, and use your ring and middle finger specifically to stroke the center shaft of his penis, really focusing on the frenulum.
Check in with your partner if he likes the pressure and the speed.
If you are receiving the massage and you are close to ejaculation, start to breathe deeply and fully, all the way into your lower belly and pelvis. This can help to cool you down.
Step 24:
Now take five minutes to stroke your partner in the most pleasurable way. If there is something your partner really liked or something you feel like trying, then practice those different strokes.
You can also check in and ask your partner if there is anything he would specifically like as well.
If your partner doesn’t have an erection then keep offering him pleasurable strokes, love, attention and presence to his penis, opening up and activating this whole area.
If your partner does have an erection, stroke him pleasurably and ask him to tune into his pleasure level, really watching out for how turned on he is. When he gets to a level 8 of pleasure have him let you know, so that you can give him a rest and stop stimulating him.
Encourage him to take deep breaths into his pelvis and relax, then start again. Keep repeating this, bringing him to a level 8 of pleasure and then relaxing him, giving him a little time and then starting to bring him all the way up to a level 8 of pleasure.
Remember to check in with your partner: does he like the pressure, does he like the speed, would he like a different stroke?
Step 25:
Pause your stroking and place one hand on his penis and one hand on his chest.
You now have three different options which you can discuss together:
You can either choose to make love now, in which case go ahead and
explore love making together.
You can end here and just cuddle and share about the experience.
Or if you don’t feel like love making but your partner wants to end
the penis massage with ejaculation, you can stroke your partner to ejaculation.
Whichever you choose remember to finish a recap. Take turns sharing what you experienced, what you felt and what you learned in this experience.