Jackie’s RITUALS Page
JADE EGG PRACTICES
Before each use, place your egg in a cup of hot water with a few drops of betadine/iodine, and then rinse thoroughly.
Rinse your cup and refill with hot water, and place your egg back in the hot water, to keep it warm for your practice.
For your Jade Egg practice you’ll need
Your Jade Egg, sanitized/cleaned
Body Friendly Oil (nothing scented or with essential oils)
Unwaxed/Silk Floss
A clean mug of hot water
Before working with your Jade Egg
take a few moments to hold and connect to your Egg, placing inside it your intentions for your practice, and the qualities you would like to embody in your sexuality.
When you are ready for your practice, do at least one of the energy warmups below, and then turn on the Jade Egg Pleasure recording. Remember that internal consent and honoring your body’s messages are the most important part of your practice!
Sensual Massage: Pussy Massage
Pussy massage can be a life changing experience.
For the giver:
A couple of tips if you’re going to be giving the pussy massage:
Slow steady strokes are almost always a winner. It’s usually even
slower than you might think.Really tune in to your partner that’s receiving the massage and really
feel her body. Be totally present with your strokes. Be present in your hands. Be present with her. She’ll be able to feel it. It will make a really big difference in her experience.There is going to be a point at the massage where you may penetrate her with your fingers or you may not. So, one of the things that is so important to learn about pussy massage is never expect that you
can just put your fingers inside of her. Sometimes her body is going to be asking for penetration and sometimes she just won’t be in the mood or it won’t be right. One of the most healing gifts you can offer a woman is that choice. Women have often been penetrated way
too much, way too early and way too often. The opportunity to keep receiving the massage on the outside of the vulva can be so healing, so beautiful, and so enriching.I’ll guide you in the audio to hold your finger right at the entrance
of her vagina and not push. Sense whether her body wants it. Ask whether she wants it and if she doesn’t you can actually just go back and redo the whole massage on the outside of her body all over again, there’s no need to penetrate. It’s really feeling into what her desire is within the massage. You’re listening to her body and not pushing her.Don’t think you have to get her to an orgasm to give her a really great pussy massage. The beauty of pussy massage is allowing her to feel, to feel her pleasure, to have whatever experience she needs to have. Sometimes that might be seven orgasms, sometimes that might be feeling very little at all. This might also create a healing response for her. So, she may need to cry, she may need to scream, she might have old issues, emotions, memories from inside the vagina might surface in the healing massage. What is amazing is to just hold space for her. If you’re not sure what to do, if she’s crying, if you’re not sure what to do if she seems really upset, you can always ask her.
One of the best questions is: “What do you need right now” or “How can I support you through this?”. She might just need to be cuddled. She might need you to keep holding her. She might need you to continue the massage. You can really figure this out together as a couple.
Let this massage be organic. You can always do your own thing, feel into what she might need or if she is really excited about a certain touch you can stay with it and you can always pause the video.
Tune in and let the massage flow. This is all about the awakening and support of her body and her vagina. As much as possible don’t take her experience personally. Just keep being really present to whatever her body needs to experience our needs to feel.
For the receiver:If you’re the one receiving this for massage all you need to do is feel, just feel, feel, feel, keep dropping into your body.
One of the big things that women can face when receiving pussy massage is judgment. You might want to judge yourself: I’m not feeling enough, I’m not orgasmic enough, I am not this enough or maybe I’m too orgasmic, I am feeling too much right.
What I recommend is everything is perfect. Your body is perfect, whatever you’re feeling is perfect, your sensations are perfect. The more that you can love your experience, love your body and just keep feeling whatever you’re feeling-- the pussy massage is going to do it’s great work and it’s going to restore you to this amazing capacity for incredible orgasms, amazing capacity for pleasure and amazing capacity to have extremely sensational sex.
• When you receive the massage, tune into your body, feel the sensations inside your body. Remember that this massage is just to allow you to feel deeply. There is no need to orgasm. There is no need to even push yourself to feel pleasure. Whatever arises inside your body is completely okay.
Setup
The giver will set up the ritual space:
Put the blanket down on the bed.
Set up a pillow for her head.
Place a pillow underneath her buttocks which will lift her pelvis up
and give you greater access to her vagina.Have the oil or the lube close by because you’re going to use plenty of
it during this massage.Put a pillow down for yourself to support you where you’re sitting
between her legs. You want to find the position that’s most comfortable to you, and you can change throughout the massage if you really need to. The point is for you to be as comfortable as possible.Once you’re seated between her legs you can sit with your legs crossed, or you can have them straight, or whatever feels most comfortable to you. If sitting like this is really uncomfortable for you or you have back issues, bring a chair up to the edge of the bed and go ahead and sit on that for the pussy massage.
The receiver will be either totally naked if it feels amazing, or if it’s cold for some reason or makes you more comfortable, you can just have your bottoms off. Choose what feels right and then lie down on the bed.
• Finally, if you want to play music in the background you can have that cued up as well. Go ahead and press play on that, but make sure that it’s not so loud that you can’t hear my instructions at the same time.
Once everything is setup you can begin the massage.
Sensual Massage: Penis Massage
For the giver:
One of the amazing things to remember is that men often have a lot of performance pressure during sex and penis massage is about taking all that pressure away, just letting him feel his penis no matter what’s happening.
While you are offering him as much pleasure as possible, there is no subtle desire to make him have an erection or push him really close to ejaculation, just allow his body to experience whatever it is that he needs to experience.
It is also nice to regularly check in with him, how does he like it. Does he like the pressure? Does he like the speed? Really finding out what feels best to him- it’s incredibly, incredibly important.
Also make sure that you don’t push him over the edge. You don’t want to end the penis massage too quickly. If he ejaculates it’s going to be hard for him to get back into it, so make sure that you are playing with his pleasure levels but not pushing him way over too quickly.
For both the giver and receiver, this is really important: You are going to use a signaling system, with levels from 0 to 10. Zero is he is not feeling any pleasure at all and 10 is he is ejaculating. If he is experiencing lots of sexual pleasure and lots of turn-on, you want to bring him up to a level 8 or 9 but you don’t want to push him beyond it.
When you are giving this massage just really tune in to your touch, the way that you are touching your man, the way that his body is responding. Look for his breath, his face, the signals of his body and let this massage be organic.
Don’t take whether he has an erection or not personally, just allow his body to receive, take the pressure off of him and just let him feel.
For the receiver:
Stay tuned into your own levels, really monitor your own pleasure and turn-on and if you start getting to an 8 or 9 let your partner know so that she can stop stimulating you, give you little bit of rest before she starts touching you again. Communication is really really essential for having an amazing penis massage experience.
When you receiving the penis massage keep tuning in, really feel your pleasure, experience what’s going on inside of you. Try not to push yourself or feel like you have to perform in a certain way, that you have to have an erection.
Just let your penis do whatever it is that he needs to do and again, like I just mentioned, stay really tuned into your own pleasure level so that when you start getting to an 8 or 9 you can let your partner know to stop stimulating you, give you a break before she starts touching you again.
Reaching a level of 8-9 and stopping there and then continuing again is super super key and one of the really beautiful ways to build your stamina. It will help you last longer and also help you experience
full body orgasms. It’s going to make you a better lover if you start regularly practicing bringing your body up to an 8 or 9 and not ejaculating, and to keep bringing your body there over and over again. This is amazing sexual mastery training for you and that’s part of this massage.Don’t be surprised if emotions come up for you as well. You never know what’s going to come up in penis massage. It’s often a mind- blowing, exquisitely orgasmic experience but it doesn’t necessarily have to be.
This massage is all about just feeling, so continually bring your awareness and sensations in your body, what you are feeling in your testicles, what you are feeling in your penis, what you are feeling in your pelvis, what you are feeling in your chest.
There is no pressure to have an erection, to have an orgasm or to feel a certain way. You are just feeling and experiencing. Keep in mind during this massage you don’t want to ejaculate, so make sure to communicate to your partner at any time if they are touching you in a way that is exciting you too much.
After the massage is done, you have the option to check in with each other and decide if you want make love, if you feel like you want to bring him to ejaculation and orgasm through the massage or if you just want to end the massage.
Setup
The giver will set up the ritual space:
Put the blanket down on the bed.
Set up a pillow for his head.
Have the oil or the lube close by because you’re going to use plenty of
it during this massage.Put a pillow down for yourself to support you where you’re sitting
between his legs. You want to find the position that’s most comfortable to you, and you can change throughout the massage if you really need to. The point is for you to be as comfortable as possible.Once you’re seated between his legs you can sit with your legs crossed, or you can have them straight, or whatever feels most comfortable to you. If sitting like this is really uncomfortable for you or you have back issues, bring a chair up to the edge of the bed and go ahead and sit on that for the pussy massage.
The receiver will be either totally naked if it feels amazing, or if it’s cold for some reason or makes you more comfortable, you can just have your bottoms off. Choose what feels right and then lie down on the bed.
Once everything is setup you can begin the massage.